If this is your first one: buy open-ended and buy cheap. Texture is personal and no description will tell you what you actually like. A single-use egg costs less than lunch and settles the question faster than reading about it.
If you are deciding between the big three: we compared them properly. Tenga, Arcwave and The Handy solve different problems at wildly different prices, and the stroker comparison walks through which one is worth the money.
If cleaning is what will make or break it: go open-ended. Closed-end sleeves feel better and are genuinely a chore to dry. A sleeve that never dries fully does not last, so be honest about the effort you will really put in.
On lube: water-based, unless the box says otherwise. Silicone lube damages silicone sleeves. Pick up a water based lube alongside it and you never have to think about it again.
On upkeep: powder is not optional with TPE. Wash with mild soap, let it dry all the way through, then dust it with renewing powder before it goes away. A toy cleaner makes the wash step quick enough that you will actually do it.
