Frequently Asked Questions

Why shop with us?

The White Unicorn is designed for women, by women. We carefully choose our products to make your shopping experience feel comfortable and enjoyable. We are a judgment-free zone, and we want you to feel safe to explore your fantasies and share your experiences. Our products are shipped discreetly, and our emails and promotions are designed to feel sexy and never trashy. We're a small business with small business values: we treat our customers like friends and aim to make your shopping experience more personal than what you'd get at one of our larger competitors.

Real Questions, Real Answers

The questions people actually ask us (and the internet at 2am), answered honestly. No judgment, no jargon.

Why can I orgasm alone but not with a partner?

Because solo, you get exactly the stimulation you like, and with a partner you get what they guess you like, plus a side of performance pressure. It is one of the most common questions in sex forums and nothing about it means you are broken. What helps: slow everything down, show or tell them what works for you, and bring the reliable stimulation into partner sex instead of leaving it at home. Couples vibrators and pressure wave toys exist for exactly this gap.

I've never had an orgasm. Is something wrong with me?

Very unlikely. Difficulty reaching orgasm is common and it is usually about stimulation type, time, stress, or medication, not about you being defective. Most people who struggle get there first through unhurried solo exploration, and wands and pressure wave toys have the best track record as learning tools. If you are on medication like antidepressants, that can be a factor worth raising with your doctor.

It takes me way longer to get aroused these days. Is that normal?

Yes. Arousal time shifts with stress, sleep, hormones, medication, and age, and it is not a one-way street. Build in more warm-up than you think you need: massage, a bath, an arousal cream, good lube. If the change was sudden or comes with pain, mention it to your doctor.

Do orgasms actually help you sleep?

They do. The hormone cocktail released after orgasm (oxytocin and prolactin, mainly) promotes relaxation and drowsiness, which is why it makes a genuinely good wind-down ritual. A warm bath and a reliable toy beat most sleep supplements.

Is it normal to masturbate every day?

Yes. Daily is normal, weekly is normal, rarely is normal. It only becomes a problem if it disrupts your life or is the only way you can function. If your routine is starting to feel stale, changing the method matters more than changing the frequency.

Sex has started to hurt, or I'm drier than I used to be. What helps?

First: lube is not an admission of failure, it is basic equipment. Dryness and discomfort are usually hormonal (birth control, postpartum, perimenopause), medication-related, or stress-related. A good water-based lube helps immediately, vaginal moisturizers help ongoing, and graduated dilators help when penetration itself has become painful. Persistent pain is worth a conversation with your doctor or a pelvic floor PT.

Will sex hurt after years without it?

Bodies do get out of practice, but it is reversible. Go slower than feels necessary, use more lube than feels necessary, and consider a graduated dilator set to reintroduce comfort at your own pace before there is any pressure involved. If pain persists, a pelvic floor physical therapist is a real and useful thing.

My partner and I have mismatched sex drives. Is that fixable?

It is one of the most common relationship issues that exists, and neither of you is the broken one. Pressure makes desire worse, so the goal is taking pressure off: honest conversation outside the bedroom, low-stakes intimacy that is not a request for sex, and giving the higher-drive partner a guilt-free solo outlet. Games and couples toys help because they turn initiation into play instead of negotiation.

We love each other but we've become roommates. How do we get the spark back?

Novelty is a skill, not a feeling you wait for. Start small: a real date night at home, a game that gets you talking, one new sensation. The couples who come back from the roommate phase are the ones who schedule the time and protect it, even when it feels unromantic to put it in a calendar.

Sex feels routine. How do we try new things without it being awkward?

Use a structure so nobody has to be the one who asks. A card game or a yes/no/maybe list does the awkward part for you: you each mark what you are curious about and only discuss the overlaps. One new thing at a time beats a full reinvention.

How do couples keep long distance hot?

Ritual plus technology. Set recurring video date nights that are actual dates, keep a private channel just for flirting, and consider app-controlled toys, which let one of you hand the controls to the other from any distance. It turns a phone call into an event.

How do I tell my partner what I want in bed without hurting their feelings?

Outside the bedroom, in a neutral moment, framed as adding rather than correcting: start with something they already do that you love, then add one specific request. "I" statements carry it: "I want to try" lands better than "you never." If saying it out loud feels impossible, a game or checklist gets the same information across.

How do I bring up a kink or fantasy without scaring them off?

Frame it as curiosity, not a requirement: "I read something and it sounded fun" is a low-stakes opener. Pick a relaxed moment, share small, and give them room to react without pressure. A yes/no/maybe list you fill out separately is the classic tool because it reveals overlap without anyone confessing first.

My partner asked me to be more dominant. Where do I start?

Have the conversation first: what does dominant mean to them, what is off the table, and pick a safeword even if it feels formal. Then start softer than you think: a blindfold, holding wrists, giving instructions. Confidence comes from small successes, and beginner bondage sets exist so you do not have to improvise equipment.

What helps intimacy after a baby?

Time, honesty, and zero pressure. Being touched out is real, hormones change everything including dryness, and the standard advice of "six weeks" says nothing about when desire returns. Start with contact that is not a request for sex, keep good lube around, and let gentle be the setting. If sex hurts, that is a doctor or pelvic floor PT conversation, not something to push through.

I'm newly single after a long relationship. Where do I even start?

With yourself, and with no deadline. Many people come out of long relationships not actually knowing their own preferences because those got negotiated away years ago. Unhurried solo rediscovery is the honest first step, and it makes eventually dating feel a lot less terrifying. Our Starter Pack collection exists for exactly this restart.

How do I feel confident naked with someone new?

Confidence is mostly practice plus staging. Wear something that makes you feel good (that is literally what lingerie is for), control the lighting, and put your attention on what you feel instead of how you imagine you look. The person who is thrilled to be there is not grading you.

What's a good first toy if I've never bought one?

Something small, simple, quiet, and body-safe, which is the entire logic of our Starter Pack collection. Skip anything complicated or intimidating for round one. And everything ships in a plain box with a boring name on the card statement, so nobody knows but you.

How can I last longer in bed without pills?

The approaches with actual evidence: pelvic floor exercises (men have them too), edging practice to learn your point of no return, slowing your pace, and reducing performance anxiety, which is the silent cause half the time. Sleeves give you a way to practice, and rings help maintain firmness. If it is sudden or constant, a doctor visit rules out the physical causes.

What is death grip and can I fix it?

It is desensitization from years of one exact routine, and yes, it is fixable. The fix is variety and patience: lighter pressure, different techniques, and a sleeve to retrain sensitivity toward something closer to partner sex. Give it a few weeks, not a few days.

Is prostate play normal for straight guys?

Completely. The prostate is anatomy, not orientation, and curiosity about it is one of the most common anonymous questions men ask online. Start small, use plenty of lube, and go slow. That is the whole secret.

How do I prepare for anal the first time?

Slow, small, and slippery. Start with training sizes, use far more lube than seems reasonable (a thick water-based or anal-specific formula), and stay relaxed, because tension is what causes pain. Never use numbing creams: pain is information you need. Work up gradually over sessions, not minutes.

How do tip-controlled toy shows actually work?

App-controlled toys (Lovense is the big name) pair with most cam platforms so viewer tips trigger the toy in real time. It turns passive viewers into participants, which is why interactive shows consistently out-earn static ones. You need the toy, the platform integration, and a tip menu that makes the interaction obvious.

What should be in a working creator or dancer kit?

The unglamorous consumables plus the visible stuff: toy cleaner, batteries, chargers, storage that protects your gear, outfit rotation, and recovery items for your body, because back-to-back shifts and shoots are physical work. Our Content Queen collection and ravewear section cover most of the list.

First time with a woman. What do I actually do?

There is no script you are missing. Communication is the technique: ask what she likes, say what you like, and go slow enough to find out. Hands, mouths, and toys are all valid and none of them is mandatory. The pressure to arrive as an expert is the only real mistake.

Shopping With Us

How do I choose my first sex toy?

Buying your first toy can be overwhelming and exciting at the same time. We put real, honest reviews on the blog, written by our staff and customers, to help you figure out what's right for you. If you're still not sure, just email us at infothewhiteunicorn@gmail.com. We're happy to answer questions and help you pick the best toy for what you actually want.

How do I know your products are body-safe?

Every product on our site is screened for materials before it goes on the page. For most categories, we only carry items made from non-porous, body-safe materials: medical-grade silicone, ABS plastic, stainless steel, glass, and ceramic. For men's toys and some realistic dildos, where TPE is the industry standard because nothing else replicates the soft, flesh-like feel , we only carry products from reputable brands that use body-safe, phthalate-free TPE. We label the material on every product page so you can make an informed choice. And we never sell jelly or anything with unknown or unlabeled materials.

Is TPE safe? Why do you sell some TPE products?

TPE is a soft, flesh-feeling material that's used heavily in men's strokers and certain realistic dildos because nothing else feels quite like it at the price point. Good-quality TPE, the kind we carry, is phthalate-free and body-safe when used as intended. The trade-off is that it's porous (it can hold onto bacteria), which means it has a shorter usable lifespan than silicone or glass, and it needs to be cleaned thoroughly after every use. We don't sell jelly, and we never sell unmarked or "silicone blend" mystery materials, but for the few categories where high-quality TPE is the right call, we carry it and label it honestly.

cheap toys that fall apart. If it's on our site, it's body-safe.

Are you an authorized retailer for the major brands you sell?

Yes. We're an authorized retailer for the brands we carry, including Magic Wand, Lelo, Womanizer, We-Vibe, Lovense, Dame, and more. That means every product is 100% authentic, comes with the manufacturer's warranty, and is fully supported by the brand if anything ever goes wrong. We do not sell counterfeits or knockoffs, ever.

What's the difference between suction, vibration, and pressure-wave?

Quick version: a vibrator buzzes. A pressure-wave (or "air-pulse") toy creates rhythmic pulses of air against the clit without touching it directly, more like oral sex than buzzing. A suction toy is a stronger, more sustained version of the same idea. Different sensations, different fan clubs. If you've never tried air-pulse and you find regular vibrators numbing or too intense, pressure-wave is worth a try.

What lube can I use with a silicone toy?

Stick to water-based lube with silicone toys. Silicone lube can bond with silicone toys over time and damage the surface, even when the toy is marked "compatible," it's a risk we don't recommend. Water-based is safe with every toy material we sell. For glass, stainless steel, ceramic, and ABS toys, you can use whatever you want, silicone lube is actually amazing on glass and steel because it lasts longer than water-based.

How do I clean my sex toy?

For non-motorized toys (glass, steel, 100% silicone, dildos, plugs): warm water and unscented soap. If it's 100% silicone with no electronics, you can also boil it for 3–5 minutes. For motorized or electronic toys: warm water and unscented soap on the silicone parts only, never submerge a vibrator unless it's specifically marked waterproof. We sell purpose-made toy cleaner if you'd prefer that. Let everything air dry before storing.

How discreet is your shipping?

Very. We ship in a plain brown box with no logos, branding, or anything on the outside that says what's inside. Your roommate, your mother-in-law, your nosy neighbor, nobody can tell from the package what you ordered. No signature is required for delivery in most areas.

How will my purchase appear on my credit card statement?

Your purchase appears as WHIUNICORN on your credit card statement. Nothing on the statement indicates what you bought.

Where do you ship?

Currently, we only ship within the United States. International shipping was suspended during COVID-19 and we're working on bringing it back. There are also certain areas and ZIP codes where we're not allowed to ship adult novelties, if you live in one of those areas and place an order, we'll refund the affected portion of your purchase. Sorry, again, it's the law.

How old do I need to be to shop your site?

You must be 18 years old to purchase any "adult" item from our site. Sorry, but it's the law. We do not ask you to verify your age for any product that is not considered adult.

What is an "adult" product?

"Adult" products are the items where we'll ask you to confirm you're 18 or older before purchasing: vibrators, dildos, lubes, anal toys, bondage and fetish gear, arousal creams, cock rings, masturbator sleeves, Kegel balls, dilators, toy cleaners, condoms, batteries, strap-ons, glass toys, sexy books, and sexy games. These items are also final sale.

Why don't you accept returns on everything?

Because of the nature of our products. We don't want to expose our staff to items that may have come in contact with bodily fluids. However, if your product arrives damaged or defective, we will exchange it for a new item, just contact us within a few days of delivery.

Is CBD legal?

Yes, buying CBD is federally legal as long as it contains less than 0.3% THC. All of our CBD products are tested to have non-detectable (ND) THC levels, well below the federal limit. You can't get high from this trace amount, but it MAY show up on a drug test. CBD laws are always changing, so if you place an order and we legally can't ship CBD to your state, we'll refund that portion of your order. For lab results or additional questions, email infothewhiteunicorn@gmail.com.