If you have no idea what you like: start with a bullet or a small clitoral toy. Both are external, easy to hold and inexpensive, and you will keep using them even after you own bigger things.
If you have a penis: start with a cock ring or a disposable stroker. A vibrating ring works solo or with a partner, and a disposable sleeve lets you find out what you like without spending much.
If you are curious about anal: go small, slow and flared. Start with the smallest plug, use plenty of water based lube, and only use toys with a flared base. A training kit lets you size up when you are ready.
If you want to try penetration: choose a slim silicone dildo. Slim and short is the easy way in, and a gentle curve helps you find the G-spot without guessing.
If you want more power: try a mini wand. It gives the deep rumble people love about wands in a size that is easier to handle. Our wand vibrator guide walks through how to use one.
If you are shopping for someone else: go cute and simple over powerful. A boxed gift set or a couples game arrives ready to enjoy, and a first toy that feels friendly gets used more than one that feels like a lot.
If you are starting over after a long relationship: pick something that feels like yours. A color and shape you like looking at matters more than specs right now.
If you share walls or a nightstand: choose a discreet style. Lipstick style and bag friendly toys do not announce themselves, and a soft pouch keeps them quiet in a drawer.
If kink is the curiosity: start with a beginner bondage kit. Our BDSM starter kit guide walks through what is in one and how to use it.
On power and material: rechargeable and body-safe silicone or glass. Rechargeable toys are stronger and more consistent than battery ones, and silicone and glass are nonporous, so they clean up completely.
Still deciding: read up or ask us. The best beginner vibrators walks through specific picks. And if you are still not sure, ask us. We do this every day and we do not get weird about it.